People talk to me online every day. Some of these interactions are great, but some of them are exceedingly annoying. I get asked for my number by random people on twitter, or asked to email nude photos, or otherwise treated in a way that makes it abundantly clear that the person interacting with me is clueless about how to go about speaking to a porn star, a woman, or probably anyone.
Sex is for grown-ups. We call this the adult industry, because our product is intended for adults. You'll get a lot more out of your interactions with the people who make porn if you treat us like adults...and if you act like an adult yourself. No, I'm not going to give you my number (before you ask something of me, ask yourself why I would do it...if the best you can come up with is "because I want you to" it's probably not going to happen). I'm not going to give you special individual attention for free. Buy something from me. Join this website. Buy a signed DVD. Say something interesting to me on twitter.
The same goes for getting laid in real life. I have game for days. I can go into a straight bar, a house party, an awards show, basically anything, and come home with a sexual experience or two to add to my file. I don't do this with "ah yeah baby nice titties I want to suck them!!1!" I do this by engaging with women, even briefly, as the adults we both are. I'm direct, I'm confident, and I know how to read verbal and non verbal cues. Oh, and I honestly do not want to have sex with people who don't want to have sex with me.
Nobody wants to have high school sex once we're out of high school. If you want grown up sex, grow up and treat the people around you like grown-ups.