I got the following question on tumblr:
I've heard many performers say how much they do not enjoy working with women who are not into women. Why do they not "out" these particular women to shame them and keep them out of Lesbian porn?
This was my response:
1. It’s bad for business on many levels. First of all, if some girl is on the record that a scene sucks, or that she hated working with someone, that could affect the sales of that scene. Do you think a company is going to want to work with a girl who talks shit on the record? Do you think other performers are going to want to work with a girl who does that? Most fans can’t really tell if there’s a connection or not (which isn’t to say some fans can’t… but the scene and the experience of shooting it are different animals).
2. We call you guys “civilians” for a reason. We do this job, and we understand it, and we have taken on the cost of it. We’re a community, albeit a strange and often drama-riddled one. I’ve always said that porn is high school (you’re either a teacher or a student, but you’re going to be in high school forever) but my lover described it as being like a small town and I think that’s apt. The talent are in high school, the rest of the business is like the town for whom high school football is the most important thing going on. We talk mad shit, to each other, all the time…but we don’t tell you about it. We do tell directors and other talent which girls suck. I don’t like lazy girls. I don’t like girls who show up on set and don’t want to work, and do the bare minimum effort to model on video rather than fucking. I just don’t hire those girls, and when other directors or models ask me, I tell it like it is.
I’ve compared porn to pro wrestling, and there’s a touch of “kayfabe” to porn too. Everyone is always hot for everyone else. We love every scene we do. We’re always horny. We don’t tell you about the fact that this girl has hygiene problems, or that girl has begun a slow descent into addiction, or the other girl is a bitch, or that it took 18 hours to shoot that scene and we just wanted to go home, or that we just had no chemistry with each other and had to get through it anyway. We don’t need to show you how the sausage gets made.
3. Do you trash talk women you fuck? In public? I certainly don’t. Even if I didn’t like the experience, I was still intimate with this other, fellow human. I have far more allegiance to her than I do to the Internet. Oh, I’ll tell the story, if it’s funny, but I don’t believe in shame. You have to understand that people have different reasons for coming to this business, and not everybody is an artist or a devotee of the church of sex. Some girls just need the fucking money. I don’t like working with those girls, and I won’t hire girls who don’t do this because they love it, but if I’m on set with her, I’m going to treat her right. I’m going to do everything in my power to break that porno glass and connect. I’m usually able to do so.
4. Most of the women in porn are more into men than women. It’s just to varying degrees. It’s not “gay for pay” vs “lesbian”. It’s a spectrum, and there’s a lot of nuance to it. Some of the women I have done my best scenes with aren’t attracted to women the way that someone like me is. Maybe a woman’s body and scent isn’t what she thinks about to turn herself on… but she loves sex, and she can connect with a person, regardless of the form that person takes. I’ve also had great connections with girls absolutely everyone told me were awful and “g4p”… but I’m sometimes enough of a boy that it doesn’t matter. Like I said, nuance.