If there was ever any doubt in any of your minds, of course I believe and stand with Stoya and the other women who have come forward with stories of abuse by James Deen. I’ve heard similar stories, from my friends, my lovers, through the porno grapevine. It was common knowledge that he liked to […]
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On Shaming and Outing
I got the following question on tumblr: I’ve heard many performers say how much they do not enjoy working with women who are not into women. Why do they not “out” these particular women to shame them and keep them out of Lesbian porn? This was my response: 1. It’s bad for business on many […]
An Open Letter to the Feminist Police
Today, I read a blog post entitled “An Open Letter to the Feminist Porn Awards” from Kitty Stryker. My New Year’s Resolution this year was to stay away from Internet Drama. I got so embroiled in dumb-ass arguments last year. I do feel that I need to address this, however. The only voices on this […]
What Makes Good Porn?
The other day, I responded to an ad on craigslist looking for adult models. I respond to a lot of these sorts of ads, and I sometimes get work from them. I owe the start of my career to craigslist, and I am always open to working for smaller outfits and people just starting out. […]
On Feminism
I received the following question on tumblr: what would you say to those radfeminists who think what you do is for the male gaze, and that toy/strapon sex is perpetuates penis in vagina sex, which they consider rape(even when it’s between two consenting married couples)? I ask cause I saw one site discussing the issue […]
The Goat in the Mirror
When I was a child, I had two goats. We bought them to keep our horse company, but she hated them, so they lived in their own pen which they were continually finding new ways to escape from. When they escaped, one of their favorite pastimes involved slamming their heads into our plate glass windows, […]
Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian
I’ve been calling myself “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” since I figured out that it was something that set me apart from other performers. When I first got into porn, I used “Lily Cade: Not The Girl Next Door” for about five minutes (on my myspace. Yes, I know. I’m dating myself) in response to […]
Why I Went to War
If you’ve been following my twitter, you’re aware that for days now I’ve been engaged in what I’m calling “The Great Twitter War of June 2014”. I did not want to fight this, but I’m also not somebody who will allow myself to be bullied with accusations of bigotry for either my sexuality or my […]
The Waterfall
I once went hiking with my wife and a girl who was then our sometimes lover and happened upon a waterfall. Kids were jumping off the cliff into a rocky pool of water below. We weren’t going to jump, but I looked back, and something in me told me I had to. I stripped to […]
Why do you like dildos if you don’t like dicks?
I get this question a lot. It shows a lack of understanding of sex so profound it saddens me. My friend has an easy answer to this one: “You like vaginas, right? Sheep have vaginas.” I feel this sums it up pretty perfectly, but I have more to say on the subject. Sex is about […]