An Open Letter to the Feminist Police

Today, I read a blog post entitled "An Open Letter to the Feminist Porn Awards" from Kitty Stryker. My New Year's Resolution this year was to stay away from Internet Drama. I got so embroiled in dumb-ass arguments last year. I do feel that I need to address this, however. The only voices on this issue shouldn't be those using disingenuous attacks as a form of self-promotion.

Kitty takes issue with the Feminist Porn Awards new criteria, which stress that the films will be judged not just on their feminist sentiment, but also on their quality as films. The Feminst Porn Awards are looking for movies that fit four criteria: Quality, Inclusiveness, The "It" Factor and Hotness — all things I think are crucial in judging a work for an award show like this. Surely, not just our message but the effort and skill with which we transmit it matters to our merit as filmmakers.

Kitty, however, complains about that the Award's "Quality" section.

High production value requires valuable time, learned skills, expensive equipment, pricey editing software, budget to fund the project. It sets a precedent that capitalist consumerist values are more important than actual politics, which is somewhat contrary to feminism, in my understanding. Additionally for those who are not as privileged and don’t have companies funding their projects, or who are small, independent companies, earnestness is all they often have. By seemingly setting the bar in a way that requires financial privilege, you are likely shutting out many potential feminist pornographers, which is disappointing in a space that wants to court diversity.

GOOD-FAST-CHEAPIt's absurd to expect an award show not to pay attention to the quality of the work it's awarding. Of course both our message and the medium we use to transmit it matter. Good art isn't just about having a good idea; it requires good execution. High Production value does require time and effort and skill... or money. If you don't have money, you must invest more time and skill and effort. The world of cinema has changed. If you have access to a cellphone and a library card, you have everything you need to make a high quality movie. One of Sundance's breakout hits this year was "Tangerine" — shot entirely on an iPhone with an $8 app (and, interestingly enough, about trans sex workers). So much of creating quality content is attention to detail and bothering to make something good. My entire career, I have fought against the triangle of Fast-Cheap-Good and tried to find some balance. Making something exceptional is difficult, and that is why we reward exception. Continue reading

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No More Technical Difficulties

Thank you for your patience, fans! LilyCade.com is now back to working properly.

Sten is still at work on a new version of the site with an updated lOok but in the mean time you can now enjoy my videos again.

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Technical Difficulties

Just wanted to let everyone know that we're having some problems with our server, but we're working on it. We are also working on a new and improved LilyCade.com so soon things will be better than ever!

-Sten

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Coming Home

This week's update is something a little different. You're used to getting a hardcore girl/girls scene every week here at LilyCade.com, but this week we went above and beyond to bring you a mini movie with a real story, genuine emotions, and really hot sex. Aaliyah Love and I made "Coming Home" together as a tribute to our troops and the women who love them.

Don't miss this one, folks.

ComingHome

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In which I am called “Unprofessional”

My friend from last night wrote me back. I guess he didn't Google me. I won't respond to this email, but here it is.

Alot of what you are saying is just what the mainstream people say yeah yeah.  I guess you never actually talked to girls I'm the industry who choose to do this for a living and who had doors open for them in life.  You made the mistake of demanding things without first making it known that you are there to work and not to get.hooked up as you made it sound in your first email.  Most young men and women do that.  How you going to demand when you aren't known when you aren't someone we need?  
Now you try and turn it around to the whole feminist thing saying oh since this industry is not.good for females then I can demand this and that.  Read your first email and you'll see you just say I only do whatever I want and you are there to film it and in return you expect to get paid.

I didn't say you must do this or that I just replied to your mistake of demanding.  Of course the girls we work with we meet and discuss what we want and what they want and we for from there but to start with you emailing to say what you want when you haven't done anything is unprofessional.

Again I don't mean to be harsh but its the truth.  So you only want to do what you want to do, that's fine bit you should've made us understand that you now this is a job n's not forbyou to get laid.  Unless you change the way you communicate I don't think this is a future for you with us or this industry on general.  And fyi there is so much free pornnout there and you saying real sex and real enjoyment is what will sell as if thibis a new concept.  We create a brand out of guys and girls and not just do porn.

My unprofessional rant is over. Good luck.

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What Makes Good Porn?

The other day, I responded to an ad on craigslist looking for adult models. I respond to a lot of these sorts of ads, and I sometimes get work from them. I owe the start of my career to craigslist, and I am always open to working for smaller outfits and people just starting out. I ignore the ads that seem like obvious bullshit, but I got my initial booking with Sweetheart Video via craigslist. I hooked up with MormonGirlz.com and PillowBook and many of the other awesome, indie, rewarding projects I have been a part of from Internet channels outside the usual porno pipeline.

I generally start my emails with "if you are shooting girl/girl" followed by a description of why I'm awesome and include some pictures. In this particular case, I closed my email with "PS I'm also available for nude non sex modeling or video, but not interested in boy/girl or solo masturbation. I only want to shoot sex on camera that turns me on."

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Mile High Madness!

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Last year, me and Charlotte Stokely won #milehighmadness

I need your help this year. Please vote today (Feb 6). There are three ways to vote and you can do all three.

1. Tweet “@milehighmovies I want @lily_cade and @justinejoli for #milehighmadness

2. Go to Facebook.com/milehighmedia and post your vote as a comment

3. Email milehighmediamadness@gmail.com and tell them you vote for me.

I don’t do a lot of fan vote stuff, but I love this contest and it would mean a lot to me if you would help me out :)

 

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On Feminism

I received the following question on tumblr: what would you say to those radfeminists who think what you do is for the male gaze, and that toy/strapon sex is perpetuates penis in vagina sex, which they consider rape(even when it's between two consenting married couples)? I ask cause I saw one site discussing the issue of porn and your name came up, and said you are just part of the rape culture of porn.

This is my response:

I read a lot of radical feminist literature when I was younger, and I think that there are aspects of that analysis that are valid. I still read some radical feminist stuff that I agree with. You may heard me talk about “The Void” before, by which I mean things like death and unfairness that are the inescapable context of the world. Radical feminism looks at the void regarding sex.

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Fisting Day

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Oct 21 is International Fisting Day. I love fisting, but it's often censored in porn. Many DVD companies can't show fisting because retail markets won't accept movies with this sex act included. Why is it banned? Check out Jiz Lee's blog post for more info!

I love fisting, feeling my entire hand inside my lover's body. I consider my hands my major sex organ, so this feels both intimate and intense. I love feeling someone's body open up to me. I love feeling her cervix against my hand. I love feeling her orgasm around my entire hand. Here at LilyCade.com, I definitely don't censor it!

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Between The Headlines is out now!

It's out. You can order. You should order it.

My most ambitious and best film featuring a funny story, politicians getting down, me as Rachel Maddow and four stellar sex scenes. Click the picture to purchase!

 

Between The Headlines: A Lesbian Porn Parody

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Between The Headlines – Trailer!

The Trailer for my latest movie is out. Click here to watch the hardcore version.

Between the Headlines features an all star cast - Nina Hartley, Lotus Lain, Ela Darling, Vanessa Veracruz, Aiden Starr, Aaliyah Love, Zoey Monroe and of course, yours truly. This is my most ambitious and best film, shot in RAW on the Digital Bolex, coming soon to a porno store near you!

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The Goat in the Mirror

When I was a child, I had two goats. We bought them to keep our horse company, but she hated them, so they lived in their own pen which they were continually finding new ways to escape from. When they escaped, one of their favorite pastimes involved slamming their heads into our plate glass windows, attacking their own reflections. No matter how many times they attacked the hard, cold, glass goat they never learned that it was themselves. Goats lack that self awareness. Unfortunately, so do many people.

I've used this metaphor before, in reference to men who ask me incredibly stupid questions about my sexuality without turning that line of questioning on to themselves. I have this sort of standard slate of responses to the "how do you know you're a lesbian" question which are all based on forcing the person to see the "goat in the mirror." If you say "how do you know if you don't like it if you haven't tried it?" I'll come back with "how do you?" If you tell me I haven't had the right dick yet, I'll ask you to go find it first.

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